one more
I’m not sure where it fits in the complaint continuum presented previously:
I kind of hate when mail/etc. is addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Husbandname Lastname.
To me, this seems demeaning to the wife half of that equation. I understand that marriage grew out of a patriarchal tradition wherein women were essentially sold off as property, but that doesn’t mean I have to like the modern remnants of that origin. My wife has her own name and personality, thankyouverymuch, and deserves to be acknowledged for her own merits beyond her (admittedly great, at least for me) decision to settle for me as a partner.
Heck, I have enough male priviledge guilt over the fact that she gave up her last name and took mine when we got married.
I just don’t get the whole submission* thing, especially when we work so well as equals.
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* – the target of that link is pretty clearly the most extreme example of “wifely submission” on the ‘net, but really, I don’t understand the “submit to husband in all matters” ideal, even in non-spanking varieties (though I suspect that the link is more about the spanking than anything else). It just doesn’t seem proper or logical to not apportion decision making responsibilities according to strengths, and to make major decisions jointly based on informed discussions. And, at the very least, I don’t want that kind of responsibility.
